Your Checklist for a Successful Date

It’s becoming more difficult to have good dates each day. Some people go so far that they give up on dating after having a couple of weird and awkward dates. And we’re sad to hear that because meeting new people is supposed to be fun.

To help you avoid bad first dates and get a bunch of second dates, we’ll share 5 tips for successful dating. The first step is figuring out what you want.

Consider the Date Type

This is vital. So many people skip this step because they want to go with the flow and see what happens. And what happens is that they get hurt. For those seeking serious relationships, it makes no sense to go with the flow because if the other person doesn’t know their intentions, they may expect a fling. The problem is evident – if two people don’t want the same thing, yet they get involved, someone will get hurt. It’s usually the side that expects to start a serious relationship.

The simple solution for that is using more specific dating sites.

On niche sites, people know that everyone else wants the same type of dates. It means chatting doesn’t feel like walking on eggshells. There’s no being careful what to say or what to ask (in terms of general desires). If a site contains the word ‘hookups,’ no one joins it to find love. Yes. It may happen, but it’s not anyone’s priority.

Also, niche platforms let people choose traits of their potential matches. For example, someone who’s into dating older women would have a much better chance on a niche site than on a platform full of 23-year-old chicks. The same is valid for every other demographic and relationship type.

Let’s take gay guys seeking local flings as an example. An American man looking for another horny man would get more dates on the gay hookups near me platform with thousands of members in the US than on a random platform with 40 million members scattered worldwide (and some of them aren’t even gay). There’s a saying in marketing: “Riches are in the niches.”

Know What to Wear

One of the biggest myths ever (probably started by tastless people, just kidding) is that looks don’t matter in a relationship. Another myth is that people don’t judge each other based on appearance. We do. All the time. All the time.

So, to have successful dates, people must find a balance when it comes to dress code. Of course, if you’re going to a fancy restaurant, don’t wear a tracksuit. But overdressing can also be seen as a red flag because some people may recognize it as a desperate call for attention. The same goes for showing half-naked on dates. Even if the goal of that date is simple hookup, it is better to follow common sense and leave something for imagination.

Icebreakers and Small Talk

Clothes matter, but knowing how to keep the conversation alive matters even more. There’s a saying that men fall in love looking at women, and women fall in love listening to men. And it’s true.

That’s why so many really nice guys are single. They don’t know how to start an engaing conversation, and their flirting skills are terrible. Having a personality (being a nice guy isn’t a personality) is one way out of that.

The other is to learn how to break the ice. The most effective is something personal that can’t be used on anyone else. That shows the other person that you pay attention. For example, in a bar, don’t approach a woman and tell her how hot she is. Find any excuse not based on appearance to start a conversation, and you’ll notice a massive change.

Plan to Arrive on Time

Being late is always a red flag. It’s a sign that someone doesn’t value the other person’s time. It shows that the person is unreliable and erodes trust from the start.

We understand that in big cities it can be impossible to predict the traffic jams, but still, unless you just moved there, is traffic really an excuse?

Managing Awkward Moments

Dates get awkward. It is how it is. But that doesn’t mean everyone should go around ruining dates. Weird moments happen when there’s 0 understanding between people. Let’s say that someone says they’re a neurophysicist, and the other person says they are a Gemini. AWKWARD!

So be careful what you talk about on the first date. For example, don’t mention your Onyx collection without knowing if the other person thinks crystals are stupid.

There you go. Now, use these to get a bunch of dates.